Amber De Vos, The Seduxe

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This week on Here’s What We Know, our host Gary Scott Thomas invites dating coach Amber De Vos, The Seduxe, to discuss the intricacies of communication between men and women. Amber, an anthropologist turned celebrity photographer and dating coach, shares her insights, actionable tips, and secrets on how to improve self-confidence, overcome loneliness, and navigate the world of modern dating.

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In this Episode:

  • Amber’s Journey: From celebrity photographer to dating coach, helping people love themselves first.
  • The Art of Conversation: Teaching men how to approach women without coming off as creepy.
  • Dating Challenges: Overcoming self-doubt, inexperience, and loneliness.
  • Personal Transformation: Amber’s move from Lake Tahoe to New York City and her growth in high society.
  • Impactful Coaching: Long-term benefits of fostering self-love and improving interpersonal skills.
  • Celebrity Insights: Lessons from the world of fame on attraction and personal magnetism


“The greatest power I ever had was helping people fall in love with themselves.” ~ Amber De Vos

“As a photographer, I really got that my talent was to have people in my studio in front of my camera and I was able to give them pictures that helped them fall in love with themselves.”~ Amber De Vos

“Anthropology is like a bigger balloon; it just understands humans.”  ~ Amber De Vos

“As a photographer, it was telling people’s stories.” ~ Amber De Vos

“Coaching is that thing where you’re actually able to give someone skills, advice, and technologies to free them to think for themselves in a very long-term, impactful, life-transforming kind of way.” ~ Amber De Vos

“Ladies are far more concerned with someone’s personality, sense of humor, charm, generosity, quality of character, than we are with looks.” ~ Amber De Vos

“You learn how to know what you’re doing because you just do it. you’re gonna fail, you know, it happens. It’s the magic of not giving up”  ~Amber De Vos

“So I think sometimes people say, oh, I tried this one thing once and it didn’t work out. My heart got broken. She dumped me. I got rejected and therefore I’m never gonna try again. Well, hello, like you don’t get the results until you get the experience.” ~ Amber De Vos

“When you’re getting physical touch, you get flooded with something called oxytocin. And it is literally, it’s a chemical that floods your body and makes you feel like you’re in love. So, and people rush into the sexual aspect of their relationships sooner than they’ve had an opportunity to vet the person as romantic as that sounds, is that our chemicals, especially the oxytocin, dopamine and even serotonin that floods our bodies after those intimate moments.” ~ Amber De Vos

“It’s not that we can’t inspire people to be better versions of themselves. And when I say better versions of themselves, it’s who they are already authentically, just next level versus wanting them to be somebody different.” ~ Amber De Vos

“It’s like being willing to take responsibility for it and also being humble enough to know that you don’t know all the answers.” ~ Amber De Vos

“That’s the taking responsibility part that’s super uncomfortable. And that’s a sign of emotional maturity when you can sit there and go, yep, I am, Yeah, he made some poor choices, but  I kept him around.” ~ Amber De Vos

“I think we have been done a disservice in thinking that romance is that easy.”  ~ Amber De Vos

“When you get super excited about somebody that you just met, it’s because of your projection of who you think they are. You do not have enough experience or exposure to who this person actually is to give them that much credit. It’s called putting someone up on a pedestal. And so it’s really dangerous to put someone on a pedestal and it is dangerous to be put on a pedestal because there are just unrealistic expectations all around.” ~ Amber De Vos

“The two things that men really need and want out of a relationship are acknowledgment and appreciation.” ~ Amber De Vos

“We have zero control over what happens to us, because that’s life, right? Things happen, but we do have 100% control over how we react to it. And so for a lot of people, that means taking responsibility.” ~Amber De Vos

“A man with a plan is very sexy.” ~Amber De Vos


Amber De Vos is a passionate dating and relationship coach dedicated to transforming the lives of singles and couples. Through practical strategies and empowering advice, she helps singles find love, couples reignite their spark, and the brokenhearted heal.

With 12 years as a top NYC celebrity photographer, a BA in Anthropology, and over 11 years in personal development, Amber offers effective tools for improving dating and communication skills. Her in-person guidance and training videos help clients overcome mental blocks and find lasting love.

Living as a single woman in NYC for over 15 years, Amber has experienced the full spectrum of dating, giving her unique insights into courtship. She enjoys helping men understand women’s desires.

Known for her passion and empathetic listening, Amber creates fun, intentional coaching experiences. She believes in the power of love and is committed to making the dating journey meaningful and rewarding for everyone.

Guest Contact Info:

Website: http://www.theseduxe.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_seduxe/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/weardevos/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amberdevos

Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ph/amberdevos/

Mina Starsiak Hawk

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This week on Here’s What We Know Podcast, our guest is Mina Starsiak Hawk, the HGTV star best known for her hit show “Good Bones” and podcast host of “Mina AF.” Join us as Mina shares her life behind reality TV fame, sharing insights from her journey as a woman in construction, a public figure, and a family-oriented person. Tune in now to catch all these revelations and more from one woman who truly knows how to build something great!

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In this Episode:

  • Mina’s transition from TV to podcasting and why she values candid monologues offering a raw and unfiltered look at her life behind the scenes.
  • Discover how Mina maintains her authenticity while respecting boundaries in navigating her privacy vs. public life.
  • Real Talk on Renovation and Reality TV, from mommy makeovers to marriage challenges and sobriety.
  • Insights on how to navigate negative comments online, particularly among women criticizing each other rather than offering support.
  • Mina’s plans as “Good Bones” wrap up its final season. Hear what’s next for this dynamic personality who isn’t afraid of getting her hands dirty (or tackling new adventures).
  • Behind-the-scenes stories about filming “Good Bones,” including adjusting to constant camera presence and candid moments that never made it on air.
  • Learn Mina’s perspective as a construction leader facing industry challenges head-on as a female entrepreneur in a male-dominated field.


“But there’s also a lot of just like really normal, everyday bullshit things that everyone goes through that I go through as well. And I think, you know, people tend like, don’t put me up on a pedestal because then I’ll just fall down. I’m just like all of you.” ~ Mina Starsiak Hawk

“It’s rough because like everyone wants you to do good, do well, but like not better than them. So like, yeah, get fit, but don’t get more fit than me. Like yeah, be successful, but don’t be more successful than me. Anything that we perceive as a threat and then we’re just awful to each other.” ~ Mina Starsiak Hawk

“What I try to do there is kind of fill in the blanks and give the information so people don’t have to make their own incorrect assumption.” ~ Mina Starsiak Hawk

“I like that it’s like everything’s a problem to solve. And 1000% some days I’m like, I would love to stop solving problems. I would love today to just be fucking easy. But I also know myself well enough to know that if every day was easy I’d be really bored. So I think that’s the big part of it.” ~ Mina Starsiak Hawk

“No matter what level you’re at, it’s really hard not to compare yourself with other people.” ~ Mina Starsiak Hawk

“You gotta have balance in it. They’re always looking for like the yin and the yang of everything.” ~ Mina Starsiak Hawk

“Thinking 10 steps ahead makes your job so much easier, but not a lot of people either like to do it or are good at it.” ~ Mina Starsiak Hawk

“If you’re gonna come in and do the bare minimum to keep your job and expect something better, that’s what I can’t, like the sense of entitlement I don’t get.” ~ Mina Starsiak Hawk

“People underestimate how powerful that is, just knowing that you’re not in this little bubble.” ~ Mina Starsiak Hawk

“Every day I’m trying to figure out which thing I should do, like where does what I like doing with what I’m good at doing, with what makes money doing, like where do those three things overlap, and then pick that thing, and I haven’t really got there yet.” ~ Mina Starsiak Hawk

“I don’t want to be creating things that I’m not proud of.” ~ Mina Starsiak Hawk


Mina Starsiak Hawk is an American reality television show star and host. She is dedicated to the art and the business of saving old homes—and to an overarching mission of revitalizing entire city neighborhoods, one house at a time. She got a degree in Business and Sociology from Indiana University. After graduating, Hawk worked as a waitress before buying her first house and conducting repairs. That’s when she found her true calling.

She renovated houses and started a company called Two Chicks and a Hammer with her mother. In 2016, she appeared on the H.G.T.V. reality television series Good Bones. She was the show’s host and has appeared in over 101 episodes and eight seasons from 2016 to 2023. She appeared in four episodes of Building Brady between 2018 and 2019 and has featured in countless other shows like Rachael Ray in 2017, Brother vs. Brother (2017–2018), A Very Brady Renovation (2019), Rock the Block (2019), and Martha Knows Best (2020), e.t.c. In 2020, Hawk and her mother opened a storefront for their business, Two Chicks District Co., selling home decor and furniture. In 2021, she appeared on Battle on the Beach as a judge for six episodes.

In 2013, she met Steve Hawk, and they dated for two years before getting married in 2016. They have two kids together.

Guest Contact Info:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mina_starsiak_hawk/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/minastarsiakhawk/

Two Chicks & a Hammer 

Website: https://www.2chicksandahammer.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/twochicksindy/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/twochicksandahammer/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TwoChicksandaHammer