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Key Takeaways From Episode:

• What Living In New York Was Like After 9/11
• Deadly Animals and Insects in Australia
• How Bill Moved On After His Wife Died
• Behind Bill’s Book “The Girl With the Green Lipstick” and How She Almost Ruined His Life and Possibly Tried To End It
• The Advice Bill’s Attorney Had About His Dating Life
• Why Sociopaths and Narcissists Do What They Do
• What It’s Like Using An Official Match Maker

Quotations:

“Three weeks after we got married, she moved her lover into the house.” – Bill Saubert

“Well, that’s how she meets guys that she has sex with, guys that she meets who are her money source, she meets through online dating sites.” – Bill Saubert

“She said, ‘I think I’m growing a penis.” – Bill Saubert

“I think she gravitated towards the psychopath part of the spectrum during our relationship.” – Bill Saubert

“Unfortunately, in my senior year of high school my father went crazy and had to be put into the state mental institution.” – Bill Saubert

Guest’s Bio:

Bill is the Sole Member of Saubert Enterprises (NM), LLC which is the franchisee for six UPS Stores he owns and operates in Santa Fe and Albuquerque, New Mexico. He employs 26 hard-working and courageous New Mexicans. 

Bill was a management consultant to the financial services industry for over 30 years as a partner of Coopers & Lybrand (subsequently, Price-Waterhouse, Coopers), A. T. Kearney, and McKinsey & Co. He ended his career as the Head of Marketing for MasterCard in Australia, New Zealand, and the Pacific Island nations.  He retired from MasterCard in 2010 and moved to Santa Fe, New Mexico. 

Bill is very active in the Santa Fe community. He served on the Board of Creative Startups and the Cancer Foundation for New Mexico. He was also Treasurer of the Cancer Foundation for three years. During his tenure as Treasurer, he oversaw a fourfold growth of the Foundation’s financial assets, from $750 thousand to over $3 million. Bill currently serves on the Boards of the Santa Fe Botanical Garden and the New Mexico Children’s Foundation. 

Bill produces and moderates two political opinion radio shows on KSFR, the local NPR affiliate, which he’s done for over seven years. 

 He is an investor in Second Street Brewery, a local high-quality micro-brewery.  He plays tennis and golf. He also plays squash and is a member of the Kiva Club in Santa Fe.  He is an avid and active hiker. He skis. He also owns and rides a Harley-Davidson motorcycle.  He has made several solo cross-country motorcycle trips.

Bill got his bachelor’s degree from Dartmouth College. 

He feels deeply blessed to have a daughter, son-in-law, and two beautiful grandchildren who live and work in Wilmington, Delaware.  He is a widower. His wife, Carol, died of ovarian cancer in 2014. 

Guest’s Contact Info:

https://www.billsaubert.com/

In This Episode:

• What Your Phycological Love Life Is
• How What You Learned From Your Parents Can Affect Your Current Love Life
• The Difference Perspective of Children From The Same Home
• Recognizing Problems and Learning To Not Repeat Them
• The Importance of Date Nights and Connecting With Your Spouse
• Intimacy and Sex

Quotations:

“Most people are not in control of their love lives.” – Dr. Thomas Jordan

“Two people can get married and have such a narcissistic investment in each other that they see the children as competing with what they need from the other adult person.” – Dr. Thomas Jordan

“As a consequence of my explorations in myself, my own personal treatment experiences, I tried to talk to my parents about what happened. It was a little easier with my father, a little harder with my mother, my mother just couldn’t go there.” – Dr. Thomas Jordan

“It’s the relationship we form when we fall in love, that contains the love experience, it grows it or it stifles it.” – Dr. Thomas Jordan

“What we remember about childhood, it’s our own individual experience, but the impact of that experience is what we’re gonna have to deal with.” – Dr. Thomas Jordan

“When you make love to someone you’re in love with, there’s nothing better in this world.” – Dr. Thomas Jordan

Guest’s Bio:

New York State Licensed Clinical Psychologist

Graduate, Post-doctoral Program in Psychotherapy & Psychoanalysis at New York University

Faculty, Post-doctoral Program in Psychotherapy & Psychoanalysis at New York University

Dr. Thomas Jordan is a clinical psychologist, certified interpersonal psychoanalyst, author, professor, and love life researcher. He is a graduate of New York University’s Postdoctoral Program in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis and a member of the faculty. Dr. Jordan is the author of “Individuation in Contemporary Psychoanalysis,” a unique study of psychological maturation in adulthood, and “Healthy Love Relationship” an exploration of the essential ingredients of the healthy love relationship. Dr. Jordan maintains a private practice of psychotherapy and psychoanalysis on the upper west side of Manhattan. He has been researching and treating unhealthy love lives for more than 30 years.

Guest’s Contact Info:

You can contact Dr. Jordan directly at drtomjordan@lovelifelearningcenter.com or 212.875.0154.

In This Episode:

• How To Say Sharon Koifman and the Annoyance of When People Struggle To Pronounce It
• The Changes the Pandemic Made in Montreal
• The Importance of Work Life Balance, The Research Behind Working Remotely, and How It Can and Won’t Work Well
• How To Prevent Burn Out
• Working Remote As a Parent

Quotations:

“Remote work is the ultimate equalizer.” – Sharon Koifman

“I like being a stay-at-home-dad and not feel that stay-at-home-dad feeling.” – Sharon Koifman

“The biggest damage to productivity is burnout and depression, not people not wanting to work.” – Sharon Koifman 

“The world has changed with COVID, it is a frustrating reality.” – Sharon Koifman 

“We have much more weed than you do and we do things fast anyways.” – Sharon Koifman

Guest’s Bio:

Sharon Koifman is obsessed with remote management.

He has over two decades of experience running three companies 100% from his computer. During this time, he learned how to create an amazing work culture, one where people love to come to work. These days he runs DistantJob, a very unique recruitment agency geared specifically for finding full-time remote employees who work from all over the world.

He wrote “Surviving Remote Work” in the wake of the COVID crisis in order to help businesses not only survive but actually thrive in this new environment.

Guest’s Contact Info:

Buy the book here on Amazon.